How I Met Your Mother - Series Finale- My View

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***The following article may spoil certain events shown during the finale of How I Met Your Mother. Please only continue reading if you are ok with this!***

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 





 I felt it about halfway through, that feeling of dread, that this series finale would disappoint. In the end it didn't so much as disappoint, more gave me a huge slap in the face, a slap worthy of the slap bet itself! I'll be honest, I was a relative newcomer to How I Met Your Mother, only getting into the show about three years ago. In that time though I have watched it from it's beginning and I grew to love the characters in much the same way I loved Joey, Phoebe, Rachel, et al. Friends was similar to HIMYM in many ways. The need to be included in a group, the quest for love in the big apple, the interactions we all face in our search for the one and how fate can prove unbeatable in the end. I guess that I considered HIMYM to be the direct replacement for Friends and there were even times when Ted's tale of how he met the mother of his children matched the heady heights that Friends reached during it's own ten year run. Friends did something better though, something not that many shows achieve despite it seemingly appearing to be the easiest thing in the world. When all's said and done the writers of Friends gave the fans what they wanted. They gave Chandler and Monica a family and a house in the suburbs, they gave Rachel and Ross a future together, they gave the characters a good send off that avoided looking too much to the past. I so wish that I could say the same thing about HIMYM, I wish it more than anything. Maybe the show became a victim of it's own mythology, I don't know. One thing I do know though is that not many true fans would have wanted Ted to end up with Robin!

     I'll back up a bit as I attempt to dissect an episode that spanned twenty five years! The episode started with a flashback to 2005 with the group in Maclarens soon after they'd met Robin. It was a great nod to the past as Lily pleaded with Marshall, Ted and Barney to let Robin join their group. Maclarens is to HIMYM what Central Perc was to friends. It was a central part of the show, a place where (as Marshall laments to a random drinker) 'so many great things have happened!'. From that opening scene we move forward to 2014 and Robin and Barney's wedding day. Ted spots the bass player in the wedding band, she spots him, their eyes meet and........ we get our first fan pleaser. HIMYM has been about many things. It's been about love, interaction, hope, friendship, etc. One thing that has played a huge part has been the running joke. From the slap bet to the bro code, the running joke has played a huge part in the show and for many that has been it's big appeal. In the first episode of the show we were introduced to the 'Haaavvveee you met....' joke when Barney introduced Ted to Robin. Here we got a little nod to that when Barney attempted to persuade Ted to meet The Mother....

BARNEY-It's time to play a little game I like to call Haavvee you.....
TED - Barney I...
BARNEY - No! No! You are not getting out of Have You Met Ted! There's a girl that you have to meet. She is perfect for you and haass she met you? No she haass not. Think of all the sex you're going to haavvee.

     As I said, this was the first attempt at fan pleasing and it was well used. It almost acted as a direct comparison to that first episode. From there we kept going back and forth from present day to events in the future leading up to Ted telling the story to his kids. It was interesting to see how the characters moved on beyond the present day setting of the story. We saw Marshall and Lilly continue in their happy marriage and have three children. Marshall got his judgeship (or Judge-Fudge) then later on his Supreme Judge-ship (or Fudge-Supreme, which instantly trended on Twitter!). Lily and Marshall have been the guiding light for Ted throughout the series. In their marriage, they had what Ted desired most in the world. He wanted the wedding, the wife, the kids. The constant nature of Lily and Marshall provided Ted with the hope he perhaps needed that there was true love out there and that when you found it, it could be beautiful. For every Lily and Marshall though there's a Barney Stenson and I was a tad bummed out when he reverted back to his old ways. It was sad to see this man in his forties pursuing the perfect month (thirty one girls in thirty one days). Barney has been the provider of many of the shows quotable lines and jokes over the years and I can understand the writers feeling like they had to revisit some of his best. It was a shame that they did it in this way though. Don't get me wrong, I loved his Playbook and his never ending bro-code. His endless pursuit of women has provided HIMYM with some of it's biggest laughs over the years. It just seemed like a backward step to take him back to his old self. The last three or four seasons have seen a huge change in Barney. He grew and evolved with the show and it seemed like all of that was for nothing in the finale.

     Through the flash-forwards we learned that Barney and Robin got divorced after only three years of marriage. This was the moment when I knew where the finale was headed. It set up the opportunity for Ted and Robin to get together in the future. All that was remaining was The Mother and she was cruelly killed off in the final few minutes as Ted began his closing sentences of his nine year story to his kids.

Ted marries The Mother

TED - Lily wasn't wrong. It was at times a long and difficult road, but I'm glad it was long and difficult because if I hadn't gone through hell to get there, the lesson might not have been as clear. You see kids, right from the moment I met your mom I knew. I have to love this woman as much as I can for as long as I can and I can never stop loving her, not even for a second. I carried that lesson with me through every stupid fight we ever had, every 5am Christmas morning, every sleepy Sunday afternoon. Through every speed bump, every pang of jealousy or boredom or uncertainty that came our way, I carried that lesson with me. And I carried it with me when she got sick. Even then, in what can only be described as the worst of times, all I could do was thank god, thank every god there is or ever was or ever will be and the whole universe and anyone else I can possibly thank. I saw that beautiful girl on that train platform and that I had the guts to stand up, walk over to her, tap her on the shoulder, open my mouth and speak.

The Mother on her deathbed?

     For me, the show should've ended at that point. Ted had met the mother, we'd been given a hint as to her eventual death but this woman had been the only woman that Ted had ever really loved. Unfortunately that wasn't the end of the show though and it turned out that this whole story hadn't been about Ted and how he'd met the mother of his children, it'd been about how in love with Robin he'd always been. There had been hints to The Mother's fate dotted throughout the series and that was fine. It was still upsetting that she'd passed away but still, it fit in with the foreshadowing, etc. I just felt that for Robin and Ted to end up together, well it just didn't fit. It's as though the writers thought that's what the fans wanted so that's what they gave us.

Ted arrives at Robins complete
with blue horn.

The 'evil aunt' Robin greets
Ted.

     Robin and Ted have had their ups and downs and it's always been clear that Ted has always held a torch for her. For me though that wasn't love, not the love Ted described when talking about The Mother. It was an unobtainable love, a love that was quite clearly never meant to be. To suddenly put them back together kind of throws the whole show off kilter. It's makes Ted less of the person he grew to be as he finally met The Mother. It makes Robin appear as the evil aunt, taking the place of the dead mother. Sure, the kids gave Ted their blessing but the story was always directed at us, the viewer. It was as though Ted was telling the story to us and so The Mother became our mother. To think of Robin taking her place is kind of upsetting.

Ted meets The Mother!

     Taking the series as a whole I have hugely enjoyed it. It's been an epic story of one mans struggle to find the love of his life and the interactions and friendships he experience whilst trying to achieve that. The show was never just about Ted though. It was the love story between Marshall and Lily, the need for Robin to succeed and fit in, the growth of Barney. It was about hope, hope that our one and only is out there somewhere, on a train platform in the pouring rain. It was about the need to love and to be loved by those we care about the most. I just wish that it had really been about how Ted had met The Mother!